When we define ourselves in our minds, who are we? I ask myself that question from time to time because change is constant. And you have to be phenomenal to have a strong growth game. Always re-inventing and introducing yourself anew to the world. Nowadays with the onset of technology, you can actually tell whether you are growing. A scroll down your timeline. It can reveal a lot. Like when you began doing something or when you stopped speaking a certain way. Which makes it awkward when people tell you that you have changed. Hello! People don’t work that hard on themselves to stay the same. The world that has been reduced to a small village is making it harder to discover yourself. Before you can walk, there are all sorts of websites, videos and blogs telling you HOW YOU SHOULD FLY. It brings up a whole spectrum of the new 21st century problems. And its easy to assume that life is going fast nowadays compared to then, but as you grow, the circle that is your life is closing and tightening. So less time to even know who you are. Especially being in your 20s. Its like groping around in the dark for the end of the tunnel only to discover the tunnel is already full of other confused people just like you
You are probably wondering where I am going with this. I think defining yourself is the most important thing you will ever do for yourself. A good way to do this is to examine how you react to different situations in your life. Your reaction to an earthquake in Haiti, a movie scene, a friend’s plight, instructions from your boss, a blog post…your reaction shows what you think of yourself. It reveals more about you than about them. This world has created wanderers out of humans. People don’t stop to examine who they are, where they are, why they are. All in a rush to catch the next train, the next trend, the next relationship, the next job. Easy question but very hard to answer because the process of stripping away what the world around you defines you as is not easy. This weekend… find out who you are.
“So much can be said in a glance. Such ambiguous intensity. Both invasive and vulnerable. Glittering blank, bottomless and opaque. The eyes are a keyhole through which the world pours in and the world spills out. And for a few seconds you can peek through into a vault that contains everything someone knows. Whether the eyes are the windows to the soul or the doors of perception it doesn’t matter because you are still standing on the outside of the house. Eye contact isn’t really eye contact at all. Its only ever a glance. A near miss that you can only feel as it slips past you. There is so much we keep in the back room. We offer up only a sample of who we are. Of what we think people want us to be. But so rarely do we stop to look inside as our eyes adjust and see what is really there. Because you too are peering from behind your own door. You put yourself out there, trying to decide how much of the world you let in. Its all too easy for others to size you up and carry on their way. They can see you more clearly than you ever could. Yours is the only vault you can’t see into…you can’t size up in an instant. So we are all just exchanging glances, trying to tell each other who we are. Trying to catch a glimpse of ourselves..Feeling around in the darkness”